Hanna

Daisy -
You write that he is in recovery yet he was using just 4 days ago. Sounds like you aren't trying to fix him but are instead busy denying he has a real problem at all.

Knowingly bringing an addict on vacation with your parents seems like quite a bad idea to me. I'm obviously don't know your parents but can't imagine anyone reacting well to the knowledge that their beloved child is seriously involved with an addict. I agree, they do not need this information.

This entire post doesn't leave me with the impression that you are handling things as well as you think. Your BF is dealing with a problem that could easily lead to his death one day. You're concerned about what your parents think and determined to go on a ski trip. It doesn't sound like you have quite grasped the serious nature of this disease.

Co-dependence is not the only problem that Friends and Family
go through when dealing with an addict and not the only topic that alanon addresses.

I hope the trip goes well and that he truly does find recovery. Until then, keep posting!

Peace,
Hanna