Jeni, a quick PS. I don't think there is a single "right" decision in the situation you are facing. No matter what decision you make there are pros and cons. But ask youself this: In the grand scheme of things, is this a decision that is life or death? Will the earth stop spinning on its axis if you make one decision or another? Will either decision put your sobriety at risk? Will either decision hurt you, H and/or your children?