I feel for you, jenny - that has to be the worst...... As a mom, I know what it's like wanting the very best for our children and feeling helpless because we can't give it to them.
I'm glad you posted and know that you'll find lots of support here. Down deep your daughter knows you love her and it's up to her to change her life. Please know you're not alone...... and check out our forum for Family:
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