Chilli powder sandwich... come on that is a little bit funny
well It will be when you are feeling a little better. Make lunches together before bed so no lunchtime drama? 9pm was wine o'clock in my house,had to make sure I was mega busy or distracted at that time.
Winding down?....had so many baths I may dissolve, it's the only thing that relaxes my muscles enough to sleep. And I have a pooch to have a wander with to burn off what little energy I have.
It WILL get better, gradually.