Hi Steelers18
You are in a situation that you are not going to be able to change so you're going to have to change yourself. There is nothing you can say or do that will change the addiction your father has. He is an opiate addict, that is what oxys are, synthetic heroin basically. I know the crazyness you're going through as my husband is the same as your dad. Your mother is stuck, trying to do this or that to make your dad do differently and that isn't going to work either. As soon as your dad runs out of the pills it's a nightmare until he gets more, repeat that, repeat that, repeat that and that's all life is for him. Accept this. Know that you can't control it or 'fix' him and begin your exit plan for that is all you can do for yourself to move on in your life. Maybe your mother needs to read some of these posts as well. Addicts don't care about anything except making sure they have the drug. Sad but it's the truth. Peace.