Al Anon says "let it begin with me" - but does speaking to him and acting normal prove to the alcoholic that their behavior has no consequences?
Good question. I think the quote refers to taking responsibility for our beliefs, feelings and actions instead of what the alcoholic says or does. Acting out in codie behavior hurts us because we get sucked into the drama and too often enable the alcoholic. Your husband is manipulating him .... try ignoring this childish behavior instead of enabling it.