I do believe it's a control thing with him. He wasn't happy with you not answering his calls, so now he's going to upset you. Best thing you can do is ignore it...that's the last thing he wants. He wants to get your attention...don't give it to him. You don't have to get sucked in to childish behavior or communication. Go to AlAnon,talk to your sponsor, stay calm, and live your life.
There's a great saying I heard in AlAnon. You know the old saying "Don't just stand there, do something?" Well in AlAnon I heard, "Don't just do something, stand there!" Meaning we don't always have to do something, we don't have to react to everything. It's okay to do nothing when faced with a problem, take the time to figure out what feels right for you.