Originally Posted by NewbieJ

AH is still not speaking to me unless spoken to. He leaves the room, house without a word and doesn't contact me. Is it playing "games" if I respond in kind? Is that not al anon behavior?

Al Anon says "let it begin with me" - but does speaking to him and acting normal prove to the alcoholic that their behavior has no consequences?

This is where the program confuses me. I just don't know what to do anymore. Avoiding him and ignoring him back seems easier and less painful, but not sure if that is me "running away" from the problem.

Thanks for your help.