liztola, yes you made complete sense. I was told today by my sponsor that he is "punishing" me (for not picking up his multiple phone calls on Friday night, which started only after I had left to go out with my program friends for dinner and a play). He called me repeatedly after we spoke on my way there, as he was demanding to know where all our money had gone.
Anyway, supposedly this is also a control thing? I leave to go have fun and he's not having it, so he calls me and calls me to somehow regain control.