FM -
Oops....sorry...accidentally sent up a prayer for you & your family
While others disagree (understandably so) I see where you are coming from. I did the same thing back in early December. Like you, I thought long and hard about confessing vs. preserving my career. Deep in my heart, I knew the key to me remaining sober was to come clean and refuse to live under the litter of lies that were suffocating me.
How did you come out ahead of this situation? Peace. You gave your wife back the husband she loves. Your children will never forget your sacrifice and when they are grown, they will be amazed at the depth of your love for them.
A rough road is ahead for you and your family. But you're setting a very solid foundation on which to build a happy, healthy sober life and strengthening a special family bond.
You're an inspiration.