I don't argue anymore. I record it and play it back.
That's actually what the friend at work was arguing with her husband about, because I told her to do it, but he found out and said she was illegally taping him. I said you have to warn him beforehand, because he's too drunk to remember, and as long as you say you are recording it, it's legal!
I do it to prove a point. I believe she is doing it to use in court against him or something. I am also very mindful of the law, because you never know when you are going to need something like that.
It's just sad how they sit there and tell you how wrong you are, and you actually start to believe that you are the crazy one. And how they go all over the place talking to all kinds of people about what you do and how you are and all this. It's amazing how manipulative an alcoholic can be.