So, how does one react to the alcoholic?
I've been #1 and lately, #2. I used to drink myself, but quit 10 years ago. I sincerely wish that I had had a good friend back then to listen to me and give me some "tough love" without being hurtful.
Instead, I got to the point where I hated the alcohol and it's damages and relied on my faith. That's when I FINALLY quit drinking.
God bless you for hanging in there for your loved one