My sponsor shares that if you are working with a sponsor who tells you it's OK to take the steps slowly.......RUN!
I think you're living the consequences. When I was 30 days sober, fear settled in. Someone took me aside and said, bluntly, "You're eaten up with untreated alcoholism. Get a sponsor. Get going on the steps." I am grateful that I did just that.
Sure enough, the fear began to evaporate. Even when I could see nothing but unmanagagability in my life, I could at least work on the step and move forward. The life stuff settled down finally.
It WON'T go away on its own. People aren't lying when they tell you.....you won't stay sober on just going to meetings, on hanging out in AA.
I hope you set your course and work the steps.....and deal with your alcoholism.