Originally Posted by
h00ped 
For no major changes in the first year in AA...not getting out of a relationship is a bit bothersome, what if the SO decides to take a step away from the A during that year, I hope that doesn't mean the SO should not "rock the boat" during the first year and play pretend as to avoid a major change.
No, the "no major changes" is advice for the ALCOHOLIC (who might make hasty or ill-considered decisions not ultimately in his best interest). The alcoholic has no more right to control what the partner does than the other way around.