Blackandblue, I know what you are going through, my EX-Fiance... He was an alcoholic, we were at college at the time so drinking every night partying at the bar was a very common thing. We would go out and dance and party have fun. about 13 months into our relationship I noticed he was drinking too much (just like his father) he would go and belittle in front of my/his friends, put me down during sex and wondering why I would kick him out at 4 am. He got so drunk one night that he threatened to kill. After that I couldn't do it anymore. When I left him, he drank for a month straight. He went to class drunk. Then he realized he did this too himself and I wouldn't have left him if he wasn't like that. He cut down on his drinking and is doing so much better for himself. Leaving him was probably the best thing I did for him. Its okay to feel bad I did. But by you leaving him may give him that push he needs to truly quit.