lizatola

Last week at my therapist appointment, I was talking about how VERY normal my AH was acting. Almost like pretending that we aren't having any problems and conversing with us as a family in absolutely normal ways. He was helpful around the house, conversing about TV, helping ds out with his math and not getting bent out of shape about the ADHD kid stuff, etc. He even spoke to a pediatrician at our club about our son's tics(Tourettes) and he seemed genuinely interested in our son's plight. Usually, he just ignores stuff like this. He was completely disinterested when I came home from the neuropsychologist appointment and I told him the diagnosis, etc. It was like I was talking to a wall.

Anyway, she suggested that he is bi-polar. I've had 2 other previous therapists in the past(recently and a few years ago before the drinking started) who asked me this question. I haven't really given it much thought as I don't know anything about it.

AH is back east working with his siblings in finalizing the plans for his mother's funeral. He is sooooo normal right now. What's funny is that he complains about stuff with his siblings and I sit there nodding my head thinking: gee, I don't know that's like. It's like he doesn't see that the things they do are exactly what he does to me. He was talking about how his brother was complaining about how manipulative their mother was and AH was commenting about how crazy making it can be. Ummm, yeah, hello, I know ALL about that. I have been keeping my mouth shut. I have chosen to NOT bring up his patterns at this point since they are in mourning and dealing with so much right now but I'm so confused by his behavior. He was telling me about the settling of the estate and how important it is that I be the beneficiary on it. He wants to set up a family trust so that when we die, the estate won't go through probate. He keeps talking about US. Now, this is coming from a man who proclaims (repeatedly) that I am cheating on him and that our marriage is crap and that it's over and that he has nothing to live for. UGH!!! God, please help me stay detached.

I never know how long this up tick will last. Yes, I've seen these patterns before and I get suckered in because they last for months. After a while, you let your guard down and then the crap hits the fan again and you sit there wondering what the heck is going on, right? Anyway, I was looking for resources on bi-polar or wondering if this is just related to the alcoholism itself? Thoughts?