Welcome
Welcome to our posts. It has been such a lifesaver for me also, this Al-Anon program. I'm a newbie in the program and really trying to apply these principles in my life. My live in boyfriend is the A in my life. One of the hardest (still at times) principles to really apply is we didn't cause it, can't change it, nor control it.
You sure sound strong and on the right track. Your wife is in charge of her recovery, weight problem, etc. God has both of you in his hands......