Thank you, everyone, for the much needed support. My friends who have never been through anything like this think I am literally nuts, which I guess I am. Strangers who have been through similar situations begin to feel like true friends. I know I have a lot of work to do on myself; I may not like it but have accepted it. I am re-reading Codependents No More for the third time, and will keep going to Al Anon. I know that I have been blessed by this latest incident, and that this is the way out I could never seem to find myself. Will check out everything you suggested to read as it truly helps more than anything else. This website is a blessing!!!