Just a question.
You say dry bf. You say he worked a program for 2 years but not anymore .
You say he says hes not an alcoholic and he is getting upset with you reading/attending alanon.
Are you absolutely certain he has not falling off the wagon?
I ask because my first thought would be that he has and is now certain he is fine and then getting defensive because hes back on the hamster wheel?
Either way. Continue in your program and take care of you.