re: going to bachelor party
Big Book of AA Page 100-101
Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts of things alcoholics are not supposed to do. People have said we must not go where liquor is served; we must not have it in our homes; we must shun friends who drink; we must avoid moving pictures which show drinking scenes; we must not go into bars; our friends must hide their bottles if we go to their houses; we mustn't think or be reminded about alcohol at all. Our experience shows that this is not necessarily so.
So our rule is not to avoid a place where there is drinking, if we have a legitimate reason for being there.
Ask yourself on each occasion, have I any social, business or personal reason for going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such a place?