Please take my comments with a grain of salt because I do not work a 12 step program. I think there is nothing wrong with stating YOUR OPINIONS. Why should you have to muffle your opinions in an effort to not control? There is a difference between "saying what you mean" and controlling. You can't make him do anything - but you can state your opinion and I think not doing so is being false and inauthentic and "walking on eggshells" to accommodate him so you don't upset him . . .just my two cents and I don't have a good track record in this area.