[QUOTE]Why is it so hard, then, for us to rally to our own behalf? Why can't we see when we are being used, victimized, lied to, manipulated, or otherwise violated? Why is it so difficult for us to stand up for ourselves?[/QUOTE}
Like alcoholics, codependents have a great deal of denial and use rationalization to keep themselves from seeing the truth. Alanon saved my life by helping me take the blinders off....I strongly suggest it.