My theory on pleasing others is that doing the best I can every day to be a good husband, father, employee, son, is as good as I can do to "please" other people. As long as I know that I did my best work, i could really care less if someone else doesn't think it's good enough or "pleasing" to them.
My drinking of course did not allow me to do my best, but I still tried. Now that I am sober I am trying even harder.
The bottom line is that if you solely try to please people, you will fail miserably every time. Set your own goals, work to achieve them, and if that's still not good enough for some folks, then it's their problem..not yours.