Josie,
A letter is a good idea. You can say what you want without having to defend it and get sidetracked. Maybe I will write one too and decide after if I want to send it.
Personally I have not been chasing down my son because conversations with him leave me drained. But you were all there when I was talking to him last night. When he started getting frustrated I asked him how the food was. When he started complaining I asked him what his room was like.
I find myself trying to advise...and how many times have I preached about that around here. It is a hard thing to not do, maybe more so with your child. So I thought of you guys and listened to my own advise and changed the subject.
So there we are...again. I am going to close my mouth and open my ears for a while and the answers and the comfort will come for me. They always have and I have faith that they always will.
You are all in my prayers...and I can feel yours!
Hugs,
JT