Dear Hopeful, the rehabs usually have placements for sober living and some even allow the patient to have the first few weeks free while they get themselves a job. I totally understand since my son is also 22. However, he said something to me on one of my recent visits. "Mom, you and Grandma spoiled me and gave me everything I needed so I didn't even feel it necessary to get a job." "I took advantage of you and I knew that if I F**&D up, you would be there to save me." This time around, I am willing to give him some clothes, toiletries and a ride to the rehab and a nice lunch on our way there
. He is asking for a rehab (court ordered) that will allow him to work so he can get a job and start paying his debts off. I think we underestimate our children (I know I always have!). Have you ever heard of the victim triangle? It is very interesting and I know I play into it all the time when it comes to my son.
Just know Hope.... Your son will survive and he will learn along the way.
Hugs,
Teresa