Thank you everyone. Iamthird I understand your position, but I thought since I am effected by alcoholism as well because it effects my relationship I thought it would be ok. I do have alcoholics in my family as well, so I respect that he cares for her and speaks volumes o who he is. He has acknowledged me as his girlfriend to his two daughters WMD do a lot together and he says those are the only people that matter. I do get that, but felt hurt. I appreciate all the advice. Thank you