Originally Posted by
hydrogirl 
I wish I could tell you that somehow, you could keep the good parts without have to keep the bad...but you can't.
The funny, warm person, and the active alcoholic, raging, verbally abusive, porn using, domineering and controlling man are one in the same. You can't have one without the other. Only you can decide if warm and funny are worth all the rest.
Sending you hugs and prayers for some peace!
Very well said.
Your grief has far outweighed your joy in this relationship.
Only you know if you can live with this grief for your lifetime.
Trust yourself. Do the right thing for you. Your children see what
it is doing to you, and that matters to them.
Hang in there. It is very normal to have those sad, self-doubt moments sometimes in divorcing.
Just ask yourself 'Was I really happy? Did I feel really loved? Was he my true friend?'
Be strong. Love yourself.
best wishes to you,
chicory