Originally Posted by
seek 
His counselor, who was strictly AA by the book also taught him that whatever he did was in isolation and had no affect on anyone else and if they told you it did, they were just being "co-dependent." Which I think is a crock of B.S.
But I did get myself worked up and there is no point to that.
A by the book AA counselor would not say that as it violates almost all the steps, especially everything 8 and above.
And there is a point to getting worked up. You've gotta feel! It's what you do with it that's important.
At my F2F Al Anon meeting last night the topic was about anger. Somebody passed me a slip of paper afterward that said "to not forgive is a decision to suffer." I'm sure you aren't in the mood to hear that now (been there myself) but maybe it will give you some comfort tomorrow.
Ken