Thanks redatlanta.
It's been hard to muster up much sympathy for him lately, but when I asked him today what he wanted in life, he thought for quite a while, and then said "just to be happy". There is something there ... is it just depression? IDK.
Anyway, thankfully, our insurance is covering some detox/rehab and he is safely tucked in and I get to sleep in peace. Not sure how long he'll get, so I'm going to enjoy every second of knowing he is safe and not drinking. And, try to figure out the next step.