Update: As all of you experienced SR members probably knew, he did text me asking to spend the night because it was cold. He hadn't slept since the night before and had been walking around outside. I'm sorry- I did let him back in for the night. It was probably wrong but- the relief I felt was immediate. He smelled like wood smoke so he must have made a fire to keep warm. I should have thought of that ..... he's pretty good in the woods.
He had been drinking ( of course- despite trying to deny it - why do alcoholics lie so much?) and ended up crying himself to sleep. (manipulation??) He said he "can't stop".
The plan is this morning for him to call and try to get into some kind of detox. He still has insurance. And, then I hope we can somehow find a sober living home that he can work and pay his rent for.
Having an addict for a family member is living in a nightmare every single day.
Thanks again for all of the support- I'm sorry if I disappointed some of you.