Originally Posted by
cr995 
I just guess I'm worried that I'm being irresponsible. He had a heart issue about a year ago, he looks like a scarecrow and apart from the drinking is a very heavy smoker. I don't know if GF is still around and am determined not to ask. I really want to build on the progress I've made and don't want to get sucked back in.
I don't think you are being irresponsible. If you are anything like me you were probably more worried about his health earlier in your relationship then he was.
He made the choices regarding his health....and I know I was not able to influence that with my loved one....
Sometimes there are consequences to actions....and you are giving him the freedom to make them and face them.
This was so hard for me....and it has been such a relief since I did it.