Unfortunately our significant others can never really understand what is going on in our heads or the effort we make to deal with it. It took me a long time to realise my family have no idea what I'm thinking or how I am without them asking me. More often than not when we get clean and sober people also expect that to be 'it'. You've kicked the drugs/booze now so you can start living a normal life. We all know that is not the case but other people don't. We have to press this point home. Personally it sounds like your partner is being quite selfish. However having a good home/recovery life is highly recommended in the fellowships. It might be worth sitting him down and talking to him about it in detail. If he gets it then great but if he doesn't you might have to try other tactics.
Natom.