My ABF would work hard to pick fights with me over anything. That way he could either blame me when he would then drink, or he could use the argument as an excuse to get away (ie go drink somewhere). Took a lot of work with my counselor to detach from the behavior and not allow myself to get into a fight. Of course, that also made him angry when he couldn't get a fight out of me! Don't be hard on yourself. You apologized, let it go and go to AlAnon.