I send my deepest condolences to you and your wife on the loss of your son, but it sounds as if you and your wife are doing what we all need to do--celebrating the life of those who have passed. It is showing others how important Ryan is to you both. It's also very healthy. Many of us don't grieve properly, and that leads to other problems.
Congrats on the 2 years!!
With a lots of Love & hugs,