I know that what I am about to say may upset some people. The truth is that members of AA do have affairs. I know AA people who have done this. The sad thing aside from hurting other people is that the sneaking , the lying to themselves and others, the actual affair leads them to a relapse. It starts out with " We are doing this for our recovery" and turns into a sexual liaison. Most of us have a sex drive and addicts are no different from anyone else. No sense in denying it.