Easy does it...
Get yourself recovered, give her and yourself a chance to get used to that new way of life you have chosen. These kinds of changes are life altering. Give her a chance to accept, or not, that.
If you need her to be quiet after lights out, mention it to her... That's a reasonable request... But how she feels about your not drinking, well... If you live honestly, honor your vows and treat her the way you would want to be treated, than you've done what you can do. From there on, it's not up to you.
Congrats on your new found recovery!