Hi Conga,
Sounds to me like you need to have a serious, honest talk with your SO and ask her if she would like to continue your relationship in your sobriety. If she answers yes, then I would suggest setting some boundaries as you proceed. For example, more courtesy late at night while you are sleeping...
Some say when we get sober our active friends may shun us because they are afraid of their own drinking issues. If you are both drunk, no one has to face the music.
I wish you well - that is a tough situation and in the end, if you want a truly sober life it has to be the MOST important thing in the universe to you. Above all else. Including family and significant others who threaten your success.
Best to you...keep us posted.