Takes one to know one
A lot of newcomers ask if they are really an alcoholic, or if they can drink in moderation, etc. Maybe people here can share some of the things they notice in people that aren't "normal" drinkers, or those that are.
I was thinking about this tonight because I filled in on a bartending shift and was noticing some of the signs that alcohol could be a problem.
The first was an obvious, someone who had a few too many that thought they were fine to drive. I think all drinkers think they're fine to drive at that moment. I know I always could rationalize that I wasn't "that bad". Normal drinkers willingly surrender their keys in that situation people with more of a problem tend to really resist the help (at least from what I've seen).
One couple was playing the game of ordering another drink when the other went to the bathroom. They were both doing this to each other. Normal drinkers can order at the same time and not worry that their partner is counting.
Another was getting antsy when he saw me turning off the window lights. Asked if I were closing, could he get another, then ordered a stronger drink, and asked for another after that. I remember getting like that when I knew last call was coming (I very rarely drank at home).
Just the fact that I had customers tonight was a red flag for most of them. Miserable night, cops everywhere, terrible driving conditions, yet still came out. I used to realize I had a problem when I'd go out when anyone sane would be in their warm house avoiding going anywhere.
I don't think I'll be filling in anymore-the whole thing was depressing me.