and let me reprase that.. to most people it is obvuois that my kids are my number 1.. i was basically saying that i love him more then anything else in the world besides my children.. didnt no that i had to clarify that.. sorry most people no.. but yes i do take alot of my time and attention away from my kids in order to focus on him and i no thats not right.. but i do feel like he needs someone to be there constantly since he is not making the best choices on his own i feel like i need to be there to push for him to make the right choices