There is nothing we can do to control the actions of others. Nor anything anyone can do to control the actions of you. We can, and the codependent do, allow the actions of other to negatively affect us. But only so much as we allow it.
That said, no matter how diligent you try to be in not controlling nor being controlled, the actions of other DO affect us. It can be very frustrating and scary trying to navigate in a relationship where there are attempts at control, both physical and emotional. More difficult still to stay the course and do the right thing, not responding in anger nor hurt, but simply accepting that others are the way they are, all you can control are your actions and responses.
Your wife is surely threatened by your sobriety. It threatens her drunken bouts. She's likely going to do her best to sabotage your sobriety so long as she feels threatened, or that through her actions she can influence yours.
Her insecurities about you and your actions are her problem. Don't allow them to negatively affect you. Easier said than done, I know! I've been tracked, followed, monitored, searched questioned, and doubted in pretty much every method imaginable by my mate. I've come to realize that all stems from his insecurities and attempts to control. It's emotionally manipulative and if you allow it to affect you will have serious repercussions on both of you, and likely leads to a dissolution of you relationship. Trust will fade, and pretty soon so will willingness to invest in the relationship.
Well, that's my take on the timing of things, and the effect it may have, if you allow it to continue. Point being, you do the right thing. Remember to separate yourself from her attempts to control. I suspect you regard her as the codependent one in your relationship, but really, she's the controller, you are the one who is codependent. Something to consider, anyway.