Thank you both. We do understand its the nature of the disease, but at Christmas? What's made it worse for SD is that mums neighbour has put photos on Facebook of them drinking shots - great! Mum had her son, SD's half brother, with her today (he lives with his dad & the courts awarded her contact this Christmas), so for him it was probably worse as he spent the day with drunk mum at the drunk neighbours. We did tell mum we would call in to see her on Friday (she lives 20 miles away) as we are in the area visiting friends, but SD doesn't want to now& says she hates her mum & never wants to see her again. We will support any decision she makes, but this let down has followed what we thought was a positive move - just goes to show an alcoholic can never, ever be trusted I guess.