Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
I don't believe this is a step on the way to hell. Not by a long shot.
What I do believe, though, is there was a time not too long ago where you would have overlooked the actions of your AS and, despite them, allow him home from Christmas. And now, your boundaries have improved and you're allowing your innate sense of what's right and wrong to dictate those boundaries. He stole from you. Not cool.
Of course, you're going to feel awful that your son can't be with you for Christmas, and I get that. But the truth is he has to earn your trust again. Just because it's Christmas doesn't mean he gets a day pass from you. The good news is you can decide how good or how bad your Christmas is going to be. Pray for him, pray for yourself, and keep pushing forward. That's all you can do.
Hang in there...
ZoSo