Well im on the other end of this. Im the alcoholic clean and sober for 10 months now. I got sober and spent 6 months in rehab but my ex left me. We were together for 7 years. Hes with some one else now and here it is christmas and im alone. I chose to get sober for myself but also for him and our relationship. He walked away and moved on pretty fast with this new person in his life. It hurts because im now doing much better with my life. Im living on my own and working full time. Im doing all of the right things and have started to gain back my losses but i didnt get him back. It hurts like hell because i loved this man with all my heart and soul. So see it can work both ways.