Originally Posted by
Ordinaryworld 
I am so sorry I used a term that not many people like. I used it because it's one I am familiar with and she is working, therefore functioning so I assumed it was the correct term. I'm new to this although my sister is not anywhere near new to her problem. Being that we live in different states, I guess it's taken me a longer time to get fed up.
Thanks for everyone's responses and I look forward to reading and learning a lot here.
It's a common term, just one that a lot of people have differing opinions about! This is a discussion that generally repeats itself twice a year. The conflict in the term comes from the question of "Are they really functioning?" because while they may "function" in public there's a lot of dysfunction behind the scenes.
So no apologies necessary! It's a common term, and a useful discussion, and we are absolutely glad you are here!