Today is day 3, and I'm working through my own thoughts and feelings, but I can't help but have a broken heart continuously for the loneliness, fear, anxiety and sense of guilt and worthlessness he's feeling now. Does this get better? Am I supposed to deflect these feelings (are they just codie and I should get over them)?
.... that HE'S feeling? What about what YOUR feelings? Yes, these are codie feelings and I hope you go to Alanon, which is a lifesaver. I suggest asking yourself if this is what you want for yourself. Alcoholics are obsessed with alcohol and drink compulsively; booze comes before everything else (including the people who love them).