Thanks for all the feedback. It really helps to hear different opinions from people who have some experience in these matters. My daughter is 26. She has been functioning fairly well up until now, but as I said the amount of booze she was actually drinking is astounding... And scary. She is lucky to be alive.
I appreciate the idea of using this letter as a cathartic exercise to start and then honing it down to something more focused before I push send. Any other thoughts on the guilt associated with the costs of rehab? According to my daughter it is this fact that has kept her from going to rehab much sooner.
She does have a conscience about money and knows how hard we have worked to provide her with a good life. She is very hard on herself and often I find it difficult to reprimand her as she is a much harsher self critic than I could ever be. Often times I find myself defending her because she feels so bad when she blows it. Very convoluted, I know.