Thanks so much for all the kind words and solid advice. I haven't heard a peep yet today, (probably asleep). I am grateful for the quiet and will take the advise about holding off on the phone calls especially tonight, i need to sleep. It is so hard to let her find her own way to sobriety, I still so much want to have a part in it. I guess I fear if I don't then she may never get there. All I can do today is pray.