(((huggs)))
I also went through this with my exAH, I find it unbelievable that I'm in it again with my AS.
As much as it hurt the first time, you can divorce the AH, the child is so much harder. We are hardwired to protect them and fix all problems.
But now they are adults and we can not fix this problem, only they can. I would also stop taken the calls for a while - give yourself a break from the stress.
Prayers and blessings for us all.