Originally Posted by
bbthumper 
Always made me think of "people pleasing."
Me too. I wanted some opinions but I still think that gracious means a people pleasing, condescending attitude.
I think demanding and gracious are polar opposites. Being demanding we are very mean, exigent, intolerant. Being gracious we are too tolerant, complacent, condescending, people-pleasing (which is just a way to get others approval).
In the portuguese translation of the Big Book the word gracious was substituted by the word
"condescendente", which means "condescending".