Not sure about your feelings on this D but I was also abused as a child (a very young child by a teacher) and sadly I was too young and innocent (also starved of sufficient parental care) to understand what he was up to....so it is only since the Savile story broke that I have thought about it again (sigh). Maybe you can relate to this - I think a lot of women can.
I wish you all the very best. Families can be difficult but try and remember that deep inside no matter how angry (merited or unmerited) they are, they do love you and obviously the fact they are coming over shows that.x